Monday 21 June 2010

The 'inappropriateness' of death


There is quite a fight going on in a sleepy little village where I once lived with my family for 13 years. The fight is over the location of a proposed crematorium in Faulconbridge in the Blue Mountains west of Sydney. The proposal is to modify an old car sales yard and buildings on a major highway, that has a motel and houses on two sides, some shops and restaurants and the local primary school a few hundred metres away. It seems a pretty silly place to put a crematorium, and there are obviously environmental issues with any crematorium, but one reason for the local opposition caught my attention.  The following extract from the Daily Telegraph is one of several references to the problem of children being confronted with death:
"Building it so close to schools was inappropriate and insensitive, Faulconbridge Public School P&C member Barbara van Kessel said. The kindergarten and play area face directly on to the school's purpose-built bus bay, which would be used for funeral processions under the plan."
While I don't like the location for the crematorium for many reasons, confronting children with the idea of death isn't one of them. In fact, I see it as important for children to learn about death as they grow up. No, I wouldn't necessarily go out of my way to worry young toddlers about the prospect of death, but I certainly wouldn't want to hide this truth from them as opportunities come up to talk about it. It seems to me that seeing a hearse or driving past a crematorium might be just the right opportunity for children of school age to be able to discuss death with their parents.

There of course many ways for children to become aware of death. Religious celebrations offer one public place where death might be mentioned; Easter being an example, as we speak of Jesus' death and resurrection. We speak of death when we remember military battles, and children's books can address death in various ways (I wrote a post on this as part of my blog 'Literacy, Families & Learning' HERE). The death of a relative, the awareness of disasters around the world, overheard adult conversations or television reports are other sources of information on death.

Interestingly, in many other cultures children are not spared the sight of death in all its most grizzly forms. While I'm not wishing such confrontation on the children of Australia, it might well be that as more parents reject God and place their hope in this life that death becomes the ultimate inconvenient truth. But as a Christian I think I'd want to think a little more seriously about death, teaching my children what the Bible has to say about it and the fact that it teaches that death is the expectation of all living creatures, but that it is not the end for those who turn to Him and place their hope in Christ (Hebrews 10:22-24).   Perhaps as Gordon Cheng wrote in the 'The Briefing' a few years ago, we've gone a bit soft on things like death and hell (HERE).


Photo Credit: Photo courtesy of the Daily Telegraph

6 comments:

Timaahy said...

Trevor,

I am interested in your comment that "it might well be that as more parents reject God and place their hope in this life that death becomes the ultimate inconvenient truth".

Is not the prospect of hell the "ultimate inconvenient truth"?

Tim

Trevor Cairney said...

Hi Tim,

Quite right! Trouble is many people simply refuse to accept that God's wrath and hell are possibilities. But no-one can deny death. But as I suggest in my post many would like to hide from this truth as well, instead of considering the ultimate hope that is offered in Christ.

Regards,

Trevor

Timaahy said...

Trevor,

Given that I deny the holy spirit, there's not much hope for me! :-) I'll just have to get you to put in a good word...

Personally I don't think anything warrants an eternity of punishment, especially since we are all essentially victims of circumstance (DNA, environment).

Tim

Trevor Cairney said...

Tim,

My view is that there's always hope.

You also know my thoughts on the second point. Sin can never be justified by claiming we're victims of 'circumstances', even if you believe in Dawkins view of humanity and life, this cannot allow us to justify our wrong behaviour; unless of course you don't believe in values at all. Not that it's our behaviour that leads to God's wrath, the Bible suggests that it's our rebellion against him and our refusal to be subject to his rule.

Cheers,

Trevor

Timaahy said...

Trevor,

I am not saying that "wrong behaviour" can be "justified" by circumstances. There is a big difference between causality and justification - we can know why something has happened and still say that it is wrong.

Obviously it is wrong when a parent abuses their child. Knowing that poverty, mental illness, bad genetics, or the parent's own history of abuse were contributing factors doesn't change that... but surely it affects our response to it?

Tim

Trevor Cairney said...

True, there is a difference between causality and justification.

Trevor